I've been contemplating what it means to be totally real- no matter what. The thing that came to me is that often times when we are totally "real with ourselves", we feel the most vulnerable with others. Perhaps being vulnerable appears to be weak and yet it is the thing that we know most about on the inside. We all have experienced hurt and what it feels like to be emotionally wounded. And yet through this risk we find deep love.
When we're actually able to be free to be ourselves we have the opportunity to not only share it with others but be exposed for the real way that we have been created. My hope is that as as we all quest for authenticity, we are able to risk being vulnerable in an effort to be real. Perhaps the payoff will be deeper relationships and the willingness to share our truths,our hurts and our fears. Maybe realizing that vulnerability can be a strength might just allow us to loosen the noose of control and give us each a chance to experience deeper connection with those that we love and those that love us!
I have this poem from Virginia Satir hanging in my mud room and I am reminded daily that "all of our parts" are good.
In all the world,
there is no one else exactly like me -
everything that comes out of me is authentically mine,
because I alone choose it - I own everything about me - my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
whether they be to others or to myself -
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears -
I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me - by so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts -
I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me,
and other aspects that I do not know -
but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself,
I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me -
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do,
and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me - If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turned out to be unfitting, I can discard that which I feel is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded -
I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do.
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive,
and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me -
I own me, and therefore I can engineer me -
I am me &
I AM OKAY
When we're actually able to be free to be ourselves we have the opportunity to not only share it with others but be exposed for the real way that we have been created. My hope is that as as we all quest for authenticity, we are able to risk being vulnerable in an effort to be real. Perhaps the payoff will be deeper relationships and the willingness to share our truths,our hurts and our fears. Maybe realizing that vulnerability can be a strength might just allow us to loosen the noose of control and give us each a chance to experience deeper connection with those that we love and those that love us!
I have this poem from Virginia Satir hanging in my mud room and I am reminded daily that "all of our parts" are good.
there is no one else exactly like me -
everything that comes out of me is authentically mine,
because I alone choose it - I own everything about me - my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
whether they be to others or to myself -
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears -
I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me - by so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts -
I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me,
and other aspects that I do not know -
but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself,
I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me -
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do,
and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me - If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turned out to be unfitting, I can discard that which I feel is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded -
I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do.
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive,
and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me -
I own me, and therefore I can engineer me -
I am me &
I AM OKAY
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